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Are you in pain or do you know someone who has just lost a boyfriend? Well this is not a situation you can easily overcome. You need to be able to have some strength and hear some encouragement words from someone who cares.
Most people do not realise the phases that a grieving person goes through. Let me share some of those feelings – hopefully you will realise that you are not alone and you are on your way to healing.
Disbelief
The initial feeling that comes when you hear the sad news is that of disbelief. This is made worse by the fact that you may have just seen your boyfriend or just talked to him over the phone. This feeling may take a while to subside. In most cases it lasts until the funeral.
Shock
Seeing or hearing news about the death can be quite shocking. It could be at the morgue or at the memorial service. This hits you as soon as you realise that your boyfriend is actually gone – dead. Compared to the other emotions, it is easy to get through this one.
Anger
Anger comes in different forms i.e. you can be angry at yourself, the world or the person who was there when your boyfriend died. Anger is destructive especially if not properly managed. Guide your words, thoughts and actions at this time. Look into the internet for some daily words of encouragement to help you cope.
Pain
Pain is tormenting and longer lasting. It calls for some consistent exposure to words of encouragement. Pain is really a nasty feeling. I mean it just sticks in there and does not seem to ever end. No matter how it feels, it goes away eventually. Memories never go away, yes but the heart ache stops at some point.
When you are in pain you may feel helpless and even regret some doing or not doing something. What ever feeling you have, time does heal – believe me, I know.
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