Are you trying to cope with the death of your boyfriend or do you know someone who is? Well this is probably the hardest situation to be faced with. You need to be able to have some strength and hear some encouragement words from your friends and loved ones.
You need to understand that the grieving process has some certain steps or feelings. Allow me to go through a few of these – hopefully you will realise that you are not alone and you are on your way to healing.
Disbelief
Disbelief is the first feeling that comes when you are told about some bad news especially the loss of someone you love. This is made worse by the fact that you may have just seen your boyfriend or just talked to him over the phone. This feeling may take a while to subside. In fact it normally lasts right up until the funeral day.
Shock
Seeing or hearing news about the death can be quite shocking. In most cases this happens at the funeral after reality strikes. This is when you start to take in as reality gives you no choice but face what has happened. Shock is temporary, in no time the feeling goes away.
Anger
You may be angry at the world, at people who were there when this happened or at yourself. Anger is destructive especially if not properly managed. You need to watch what you say and think during the time. Buy some books about daily words of encouragement to help you deal with this destructive feeling.
Pain
Pain is tormenting and longer lasting. It calls for some consistent exposure to words of encouragement. Pain is deadly. I mean it just sticks in there and does not seem to ever end. No matter how it feels, it goes away eventually. I don’t mean to say you forget what happened but you simply are able to live without feeling bad all the time.
Pain comes with helplessness and sometimes regret. What ever feeling you have, time does heal – believe me, I know.
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